G'day, and welcome to my blog site. My name is Ivor Steven, I live in Geelong, Australia. I'm an ex-industrial chemist, and a retired plumber, and a former Carer of my wife(Carole), for 30 years, who suffered from severe MS. I Write poetry about those personal thoughts, throughout and beyond my life as a Carer.
I've been blogging for over 2 years, and writing poems for 19 years. Of course a lot of my poems are about my favourite subject Carole, but since I've been blogging my writings have become quite varied, humourous, mystical, observational, and even a few monster/horror poems.
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what an honour to be asked! No shame in saying ‘no’ … at this stage of life we need to have clear priorities, and being too busy isn’t helpful to anyone 🙂
Haha … we all have a bit of ego … maybe mine is in my poetry .. but this week I turned down an offer at CHW, to be a team leader and poetry mentor … I think they were disappointed …
If I start to feel uncomfortable and anxious about a situation, then I now know it’s time to back out … and swallow my little piece of ego .. live is a learning process all the way through .. 💕😉😘
That’s just it, we can’t, go back, to undo the hurt we caused someone, we can’t unsay the awful things we said already, we can, only, live with, the, consequences of these, bad things we already, did.
Keep being you (you are kind, wise, generous, compassionate, and so many more positive things) and keep doing what is bestest for you and your health. It’s okay to say “no” to things. I had to learn that word a few years ago as I was doing way too much volunteer work and trying to work and live life and ETC.
This is a wonderful photo, poem, and song trio, Ivor. Very relatable.
(((HUGS)))
Ivor.Plumber/Poet 
I think you are a lovely person Ivor 💜💜
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Thank you Willow .. but I said no to generous offer and I think they were disappointed 😊💕🌏
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Oh! But we all are only human 💜
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I suppose I’m human too 💕😊🌏😃
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💜💜💜
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This tanka must be describing a rare moment, Ivor. You overflow with lovingkindness! ❤
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Thank you Cheryl … I suppose so .. but none are perfect 😊💕🌏
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You aren’t unkind or foolish.
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Haha .. that’s nice to know Sadje 😊🤗💕
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👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
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Wonderful write 💜💜💜
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Thank you d.a. 💕😊🌏
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I don’t believe it for one second, Ivor!
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Yes it’s a bit complicated .. I was offered a team leader and poet mentor position at CHW, but I turned down offer ..
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what an honour to be asked! No shame in saying ‘no’ … at this stage of life we need to have clear priorities, and being too busy isn’t helpful to anyone 🙂
Love this song, thanks
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Thank you Kate .. and yes it’s time for me to slow down and put myself first 😊🌏🤗
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right decision then, no need to bag yourself over it 🙂
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Yep .. it’s just me .. always trying please everyone 😊🤗🌏
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not a healthy aspiration, stretches one too far and leads to untold stress …. chill man, you did the right thing!
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I’m slowly changing my ways
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changing is growing … and we should be doing that until the day we stop breathing 🙂
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Oh! I suppose you had your reasons 😅
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Yep .. mainly I’m just looking after myself and trying try slow down, and reduce my work load … haha .. Ivor is definitely feeling older ..
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It’s important not to overload yourself-I’m an expert at that 😅
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I was an ‘expert’ too, .. but now I must relax and unwind myself 💕😊😃
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love your words Ivor but what ego?!💖
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Haha … we all have a bit of ego … maybe mine is in my poetry .. but this week I turned down an offer at CHW, to be a team leader and poetry mentor … I think they were disappointed …
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Oh so true.. as long as we’re human. oh wow, i bet they were.. ha. why did you turn it down?
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Mainly for health reasons Cindy … I must be kinder to myself and keep within my capabilities ..
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Oh that makes sense and is very good to hear you taking good care of yourself Ivor! 💖
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If I start to feel uncomfortable and anxious about a situation, then I now know it’s time to back out … and swallow my little piece of ego .. live is a learning process all the way through .. 💕😉😘
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That’s so great you listen to the signs. hahaah good for you! 💖💖
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I’ve learned the hard way Cindy 😊🤔💜
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We mostly all do don’t you think Ivor?! You’re not alone! 💖
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Yes Cindy, but that is the way life is .. 🤗💚💛
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you are just so sweet
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Thanks Beth ..
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That’s just it, we can’t, go back, to undo the hurt we caused someone, we can’t unsay the awful things we said already, we can, only, live with, the, consequences of these, bad things we already, did.
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Keep being you (you are kind, wise, generous, compassionate, and so many more positive things) and keep doing what is bestest for you and your health. It’s okay to say “no” to things. I had to learn that word a few years ago as I was doing way too much volunteer work and trying to work and live life and ETC.
This is a wonderful photo, poem, and song trio, Ivor. Very relatable.
(((HUGS)))
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Thank you Carolyn … and life shall continue to be a learning process … 💛💚🤗🌏
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I’d be surprised if you weren’t forgiven
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Yes Derrick, they have kindly acknowledge my situation ..
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Thank you for reblogging my ‘Tanka’ on your fabulous site ..
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“Foolishly unkind” does not define you at all Ivor. 🙂
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Haha.. foolishly unkind to myself Colleen 😊
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There you go. And no need for that my friend. 🙂
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